How do you judge a person to be goth or not?

[Desdemona]

I am on the edge of being mad!! Recently Ive been on a goth dating site and you know what? The freaks there said I AM FAR FROM BEING A GOTH!

I AM GOTH! And who has the right to doubt me?

Say, just like the title. How do you judge?

Without knowing the specifics of what they said, I think it really depends on who is defining what a Goth is. Some people think that being a Goth is all about the dress and makeup. But I think that there is also an internal component of being a Goth. Not everyone can go around with black lipstick, corsets, black fingernails, etc. Some people have jobs! But I think you can also be a Goth by your mindset, your musical tastes, your personality, your reading interests, etc.